Archive for April, 2010

Sweet Home to You

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

One of the ezines: Sweet Home to You,
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Have you seen the movie, “ Sweet Home Alabama” ?

Do you remember the scene towards the end where the female character, played by Reese Witherspoon, says to the male character, played by Joshua Lucas: “Why didn’t you tell me that you came to New York City?” And he replied, “Because I had to make something of myself”. And then she said: “ Well, are ya done yet?!”

Surely, most of us know what that feels like at some point in our lives. Have you ever felt that you had to make something of yourself? Has your lay-off or life change put you in this kind of a thinking mode? It doesn’t matter what age you are, what color you are, what gender you are, or even what ‘class’ you are, if there is such a thing! Are we ever done making something of ourselves? Hopefully not. But it’s got to be on our terms. It has to feel right to us, not to who we may live with, or love, or answer to in some area of our life.

I’ve got a Life Purpose Jar that I demonstrate in my workshops from time to time. Imagine a clear glass cookie jar, empty. Now, add one red ball in it – that’s you as a baby. As we grow up, green balls are added to the jar – they represent our parents, our teachers, siblings, friends, the media, strangers, bosses, colleagues, jobs, comments, books, snubs, criticism, compliments and so much more!

Not all of us have been taught to know our feelings, trust ourselves, or understand instincts. It’s an ability that each of us can acquire. And it’s important if we are still trying to make something of ourselves. And if things have changed in the last year or two, then we should be in this process. We are more than our circumstances, always. We have unlimited potential and new things to learn and discover each day. Whether we are employed and satisfied with our work or wanting more, or not, keep making something of our ‘self’.

Here are three steps in developing your ‘something’. Maybe you got rusty or perhaps you have never gone there, in the first place:

1. Have quiet time alone everyday, beginning with a minimum of 20 minutes. Just let your mind go.
2. Take a personality test, or a strengths assessment, or update your values statement, or do all three.
3. Journal your thoughts, curiosities, dreams, ideas, plans, questions, timelines, regrets, wants or goals each day.

These 3 simple steps can reveal something you still want to do, or bring out a buried desire that was hidden because someone, somewhere, said ‘forget’ about that, and SO you did, then. Bring it back out. Be honest. There is no right and wrong in this exercise. You are, of course, something now. But you may still want to ‘make’ something else out of ya!

and have fun doing it.

You may visit our web site at to learn more about Ashley & Associates. We have a six week signature set of workshops that covers getting to know yourself and any aspect of the career search (and/ or your life purpose search).
Also available are Group Coaching and Individual Mentoring.

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Gump It Daily

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

We are going to start blogging on a weekly basis, but are going to refer it to as “Gump It Daily” as our goal is to move to daily blogging.

GUMP  is named after  Forrest Gump,  because he knew how to turn any adversity or disability around.

GUMP is an acronym for:

G -  be Grateful for something each day

U Uplift someone else everyday

M – make your day more Meaningful

P -  don’t take it Personal  (from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements)

We hope that this blog ends up being a daily guide, and if you are looking to learn about anything more specifically, please don’t hesitate to offer a suggestion by leaving a comment below.